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She’s a Jolly good female

I have met a couple of female “keke” drivers, but this particular one captured my fancy.

Talk about enthusiasm and love for one’s job and you were looking at her. She exuded it, and did not lack the confidence and persona needed for that particular job.

The minute I walked up to her and inquired her intended route, from her response, I knew I was talking to an enthusiast.

Right from how she beckoned to passengers, wanting to know if they were going her way, to how she responded to occupants of the vehicle, there was uniqueness that I could not ignore.

She made you feel special even as she collected the required transport fare.

As I sat behind, watching and observing the way she related with “area boys”, I marveled at how effectively she coped with them. Then I couldn’t help but smile to myself when she switched to clear English in response to another passenger, asking her to exchange a thousand naira for two five hundred naira notes.

It was there and then my inner writer decided to celebrate this particular woman even if in my own small way.

At the end of the journey, I asked for permission to take her picture, her response was quick and positive.

My only regret was not asking for her name.

But to all those “nameless” men and women who are happy doing what they do regardless, I say kudos.

There is indeed dignity in labour, and there’s nothing like good, honest pay.


As you make your bed, so you lie


Wishful thinking has been one of man’s major, ancient, enemies.

We want something, but are sometimes not willing to do what it takes to achieve or acquire it.

We want something, but most times wish it would just appear out of the blue without our having to lift a finger towards getting it.

This might not be the case for everyone of us, but it’s rather very easy to daydream about any and everything,  the flying car, the talking home and all sorts without lifting a finger. It’s just that, the price for laziness is quite steep. Quite steep indeed…

And when we don’t have what we want, we sulk, whine, whimper, complain. All but accept the part we played in our not receiving what we desire.Nothing!

We would rather blame someone else than our own selves for our lack of action and incompetence than go through the arduous task of doing the needful-as we say-to acquire the “wishful”

Why we choose to heap blame on others but ourselves for goals not achieved further points to detracting and derailing attitudes that we need to do away with or get out of our system. But do we? Nah! It’s much easier to pass bulk. That soothes us just fine.

Everyone else but you, easy bait.

Considering we even have all it takes to be and get what we want- the beds, the sheets and the pillows that goes with it, the complete set that some may lack-wouldn’t it just be nice to go the final lap and make the bed? And on time too?

There are differing levels of “the way we make our beds” and the circumstances surrounding it that if one really puts cap to head or head to cap, one would find varying degrees and hues to it that would in the end, require another round of head to cap or cap to head process, to enable one understand the gravity of the situation. 

Some situations involve people who have no beds at all. Some have beds with no sheets, while others are not in the league of pillow owners by any long stretch and some have all these things but yet don’t consider the rigors of making the bed a worth while venture.

I mean, come on, aren’t you and I the ones to profit from a neatly made bed after all? What else can beat a good night’s rest on fresh, clean, sheets!

Maybe we should keep viewing it this way-no making my, no sleeping I get-so as to ensure we pull down the obstructing barriers to our nights rests, whether self erected or otherwise, so we can enjoy good, sound, sleep.

After a hard day’s work I should add. This brings me to the timing of making our beds. When should be the appropriate time to make this bed in question? Obviously not when we are weary and worn…

The fact that some even go as far as keeping the sheets so dirty, the ooze from it could kill a distant fly is somewhat unimaginable to some extent but true.

Then others just cannot tell the difference between clean sheets and dirty ones, they just make their beds with the sheets as they are, not bothering with the fine art of clean sheets in the least.

Then comes the herculean task of accepting a point-out, if, and when it comes from others about their not-so clean sheets. God help you, if you are so unfortunate to be the one to tell one of these kinds that their sheets are dirty. You will be faced with the real life drama of denial, abuse of your person and/or serious arguments about whether or not the sheets are clean or dirty and how minding your own business can be a blessing. Then if you do get off easy, strict warning to keep your opinions to yourself and disappear.

I imagine that playing mother hen or goose in these kinds of situation is not a very rewarding pastime but let’s face it, how many of us truly like being told about our dirty anything? Whether we are going about it the public display way or just keeping our private matters private? Hmm, how many? Not many I must say, for rather than be approached by others when we are wrong or lacking in an area, we will would prefer to glide in our state of blissful ignorance and “undisturbedness” if I am allowed to use this grammar at this point.

How about those who clearly lack proper assessment of times and tides? They either end up getting the wrong kind of fabric for the opposite kind of weather as bedsheets and altogether are unprepared to whether the storm or shine when it comes. They are sweating profusely in hot situations and nearly dieing of cold due to thin coverings in freezing atmosphere. 

In these circumstances the supposed well equipped beds, sheets and pillow situations end up being nothing better than the cases of those who have some of the items missing or non of the items in the set at all. They therefore end up facing same life challenges with the have-some or have-nots.

For those of us that have the luxury of having their beds tended to by others, congratulations! But can I quickly point out here that not all situations in this life will always allow pseudo arrangements. For instance, imagine the awkwardness of being fed by another when you are not an invalid or a baby. Even when invalid and aged, the uncomfortable picture of someone else passing you a spoonful at times will make you sit up and fill-up, except in extreme cases where hands fail to meet mouth and then there’s nothing wrong with someone else helping out. Nothing at all.

Other than such cases, we had better get ourselves training on how to make our beds since/if can afford to, or watch as each hour of the night finds us wide awake and deeply irritated and the morning does not help but expose our state of restlessness and lack of sleep. Not a very good condition to be caught in I promise you.

I have heard of and know that some of us can pass out on a bed, clean sheets or not dressed or undressed, and sleep to their hearts content and never be disturbed by the happenings around them. Even if a dedicated, hardworking carpenter decided to take shop by their beds in rigorous job-fulfilling hammering, every day for every night of every year! Well….(where is that smiley with a zipper for lips…)

They don’t bulge or loose sleep over one carpenter who has failed to search the Holy Scripture to discover and understand the importance and meaning of “He giveth His beloveth sweet sleep”.
Forgetting that eventually, what happens to those who sleep on dirty sheets will happen to them. No matter how long it takes, the itching will start and the rash will appear, howbeit, you being the only one to fully understand goings on, but a repercussion always rears it head, ugly to sight or hidden.

Then come the natural human tendency of comparison. Beds, sheets, pillows, the sizes, colours and texture among other issues now get to be evaluated and compared with that of others and precious time that could be used to, for instance, work out how best to improve on our bedroom settings is wasted on the mind sapping activity of “why them and not me” not bothering to put into consideration the hard work and attention that may have come into play before such restfulness was achieved.

As much as God will grant His beloved sweet sleep, it is still up to you and I to play our part. We are to get into our PJ’s or whatever comfortable clothing we require for sleeping, dress our beds and keep to the routine of ensuring the bedding remain clean and tidy as often as necessary. Finding time and opportunity to get spare sheets and slips as we can afford.

Ultimately, the onus for a good night sleep rests with us and no one else. Let’s make effort to ensure we do a good job of ensuring complete restfulness.

We can add progress to this process of bed making given time and effort and practice by adding such things as beautiful smelling fragrance for effect and of course, the cooling system etc etc.

It is after we have successfully played our parts that we can look around, heave a sigh of relief, and stretch out relaxed and content to take naps or night rests as the case may determine.

Otherwise ask ourselves; what exactly I’m I missing out in this process of bed making that is causing my lack of sound sleep?

Once we are able to detect where the problem lies and ultimately do something about it, it’s hello sleep and goodbye sleeplessness.

Or at least count sheep for extra help.

The snore comes naturally. 

As long as it’s not too loud, it’s allowed, after all, you worked for it. So, sleep tight!

Live, Love, Learn, and Grow!

The “if onlys” club-the “regretion analysis”

According to the Bible,a man’s worst enemies are those of his household and narrowing this down quite frankly, the number one enemy to our success could very well be us!

Yep, it has to be said.

So many times we want to embark on this “dream” project of ours but never get around to doing it, why? For no just reason at all.
Think about it, what cogent reasons do we sometimes have for not beginning or “giving an honest or heartfelt jab” at our desired expectations cum dreams?
The reasons would sometimes range from: “I don’t think I am really ready”, “still trying to gather resources or materials” to “I’m waiting for just the right time”.
While all these are okay and exposing ourselves or having wrong timing could be detrimental to success, procrastination or delay can be a real dream killer!

A “no brainer” right?  but always an issue.

Sometimes what we just need to do is- be honest with ourselves regarding how we go about achieving our desired goals, draw a definitive line so we are not caught or muddled up in issues and just….attack!

Laziness is another goal killer we indulge in or employ quite so often,as laziness is closely related to procrastination, we tell ourselves the “why’s” and “why nots” behind(or before as the case maybe) our not carrying on or just beginning on the journey to accomplishing our dreams.

It’s probably needless to mention that the world today is rife with so many “lf only” attitudes and tags that we would do ourselves a bit of good by just giving our dreams and ambitions the little push required and therby saving ourselves the usual heartache that comes from not trying at all or not doing enough.

I don’t know about you, but there’s always this tendency for a “really hot” idea to become a “really cold” one and feel “distant” if I don’t have a go at it soon enough. I find that I have to work extra hard to keep focus and get anything done! (Maybe it’s just me). But we must agree that it  really pays to make hay.

Have you ever been in an “if only” situation? This happens when you are reminded (how be it bitterly) of some things you should have done several lifetimes back and what could have been if you had listened to the “still small voice” softly nudging you on to do or to become. It’s especially painful when someone we know succeeds “effortlessly” at what we otherwise thought we wouldn’t or couldn’t achieve.

We then go about feeling sorry for ourselves and carrying around the regretful/failure attitude or tag. Then we go “if onlying”.If only this, if only that and if only the other that is characteristic of failure and or regretful people.

The typical regretful/failure attitude/tag can include any of the following clubs but not limited to in definition or appearance by the following:

1. The characteristic “had I known” or “if only” speeches. Seen or been around anyone that falls under this category? to be honest,  most of us have had the “rare privileged” of delivering at one time or another our very own “had I known speech/if only”  speeches and depending on the degree of “defeatedness” and the authority we possess over our “audience”, it can be very long and very boring.

2. Another close cousin to the “had I known/if only” descendants of unrealised dreams and visions is the “I used to bes”. Here the affected individual rolls out a long list of items that they believe they used to be and be laden their audience with it. This can resemble the following or take the format of the following: “I used to be the best student in my class” (sound familiar), “I used to be so beautiful/handsome”, “I used to be so rich” and the bla bla continues. God help you if that individual is your boss! You would probably be subjected to unreasonable tasks and expectations and if a parent? The child is probably doomed to ceaseless comparisons between two totally varying lifetimes and experiences!

3. Another club with close resemblance and characteristics to the “I used to bes” is the “I could have been” or “how I wish” personalities. In my opinion they are the deadliest of the bunch! They could be ruthless, determinedly crafty, and would probably do anything, to keep a “hitherto perceived competition” distracted or derailed from their course. As long as it keeps said competition from looking or appearing better than they.

Reader beware!steer clear of these and better still strive to be a non-member of this club. With this in mind,I wish to say or write no more about this category.

Having done some justice to what could happen to us if we fail to “keep on keeping on”, “keep the candle burning”, “not give up on our dreams”, and so on and so forth. I would end by saying this: not only is “all well that ends well”, but that “whatever is worth doing is worth doing well” and  so let us please try to “go the extra mile” always.Don’t be part of the “regretion analysis”.

It’s very well worth the effort.:):):).

The very best.